Can you change a person?

   It's a pretty universal belief that you can't change a person, you may want them to change, you may be spot on that they need to change, but without their cooperation you're probably out of luck.  

There are probably a few people in your life that you would like to see change certain behaviors.  Your significant other may be late all the time.  Your mother may complain too much.   Your best friend won't break up with her boyfriend, even though she spends all her time fighting with and and filling you in on the dirty details.

Once these annoyances get tiresome, you may be justified in encouraging them to make changes.  Can you change another person's behavior?  Should you even try?

 You may be surprised to learn that you can help someone change their behavior, but it's primarily possible by changing yours. If your partner is always late, then you an decide to start your plans without him.  Instead of getting frustrated and nag, just go about your business.  Eventually they will realize that you aren't going to put yourself out anymore.  When your mother starts to complain, change the tone of the conversation, ask her "mom, how can we make this better?"  Don't entertain the negativity, be positive and look for the good in every situation.

You will be surprised how people around you change, when you make changes to the way you behave when you interact with them